This is Missy’s mom. Instead of posting what Missy wrote for her blog this week, I thought I’d post something on her behalf.
Yesterday, Missy found out that three of her classmates have been talking badly about her behind her back. The entry Missy wrote was very heartfelt, but I’m concerned that the classmates that are talking badly about her will take her entry as an opportunity to make matters even worse.
As we all know, bullying is a problem in society that seems to be getting out of hand. That being said, not everything that’s mean is bullying, and Missy knows this.
However, what begins by meaning mean can very easily turn into bullying or worse.
Here’s a few suggestions I’d like to leave on Missy’s blog, especially for the classmates that are talking badly about Missy behind her back.
1. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to pretend to like them.
2. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to talk badly about them.
3. If you’re having bad feelings about another kid at school, talk to a grown-up you can trust. That someone you can talk to can be your mom or dad, your grandma or grandpa, or a teacher.
4. If you think that, by talking badly about someone you don’t like, people will think nicely about you, you’re making a great big mistake. People will be scared to be your friend in case you get mad at them, too, and start to talk badly about them.
Parents, please take the time to talk with your children about their feelings and how to deal with them. Behind every mean comment is a grain of pain that’s irritating the heart and soul of the person who speaks that mean comment.
I’d hate to think that anyone who is in pain isn’t getting the love and support they need to heal.
(Missy Barrett’s mom)